On today’s blog, my adorable friend Jess Witkins has stopped by to share her story of taking the plunge from living a life of drudgery to living life on her terms. From time to time, I’m going to share stories like hers because I think it’s so important to remind ourselves that it is indeed possible to make the changes in our life that we so deeply desire.
And for those who are wondering where the heck I’ve been and how my “Year to Live” has been going, I’ll have updates in the weeks to come.
Jess, take it away!
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Hello Everyone! I’m so honored Ingrid asked me here. She’s been such a phenomenal friend and confidante, even acting as a beta reader for me on my book. When she asked me to share my story, about quitting my job and taking the blind leap into the unknown, I said YES!
Here’s my wild adventure, gory details included. 😉
For six years I worked in retail for a large department store. It’s identity shall not be named in order to protect the damned. I started working there in college, and after graduation, I freaked about becoming an “adult.” So I took a full time position at the store and bragged to my dad that I finally had health insurance.
I’m Such a Grown Up!
In a matter of months, I earned my way up the chain to being the top Sales Manager in the store. I oversaw all the commission sales departments and had a team double the size of any of my peers. We all had to wear multiple hats in our roles, so I also oversaw all our fundraising and new hire training.
I was good at my job. I just wasn’t happy.
I had not dreamed of being a Sales Manager. Far from it! I dreamed of being Anne of Green Gables, writing lavish love stories much too great for the likes of baking powder companies.
“Cordelia, you have an exquisite alabaster complexion.”
But I digress…
For years I tried to apply for different jobs, transfers, and nothing ever synced. My mental state was fried. I would come home from work crabby and do nothing but vent. I tried getting back into hobbies, like writing. I started blogging, which helped, but I never made any headway on my book.
The Last Straw:
When we got a new store manager, things took a turn for the worse. She was a first time store manager, and instead of acting as a mentor, was more like a school marm. She criticized a lot if things weren’t done her way.
My friends and family had told me to quit multiple times. But what would I do financially? Where would I go? All I’m trained in now is sales!
At some point though, enough is enough. I can’t pick out one moment; it’s more like my moment was tied up in years of moments – folding sweaters, calling about credit card complaints, and getting people the next size up in shoes.
I took the wildest leap of my life and turned in my resignation…with no back up plan.
Problems Ensue:
My brilliant idea was to return to school for a Master’s in writing. The problem was that I had already missed the deadline for enrollment, which meant waiting another year.
But I went to a writers conference, which thankfully I had paid for while still employed, and boasted of my great plans to return to school!
A-Ha! Moment:
One of the writers at the conference asked me WHY I was going back to school. Did I want to become a teacher? – No. Did I want to become an editor or start my own publishing house? – No.
All I wanted to do was write books.
“You know you don’t need a Master’s Degree for that, right?” she said.
And she was right.
A Drastic Change of Plans:
Over the next several months, my lifestyle changed. I was unemployed and racking up debt on my credit card, but I was writing. I used the time off to plant my butt in a chair and finish the first draft of my book, a feat I had never before accomplished.
I also filled out more applications, revised more resumes, and did more interviews than I can keep count of.
I’ll be the first to tell you it wasn’t easy. Financially, it was the most difficult time of my life, putting additional stress on my relationship as well as my bank account. I know that I am fortunate this all worked out in the end.
I did have to take what I call an “in the meantime” job to get by. Despite my years of leadership experience, I accepted a manager in training position with a chain company. The hours were nothing like they promised me, working sometimes until 1am. And I kid you not, at the Leadership Training with the Regional Manager, he spent the first half of the day discussing the importance of using a planner!
#HeadDesk
What was different about this job than my last was that I knew this was temporary. It was a survival job until I found the right job, which did come. I reached out to a few college mentors of mine to see if they knew of any openings, and one of them got back to me that she was looking for a new Executive Assistant.
Paving a New Path:
The rest is history, as they say. I accepted the Executive Assistant role and began my newly balanced lifestyle that included both work and writing.
I still have to remind myself that while I may not be moving forward as fast as I like, I’m a lot closer than I was before. Sure I’m still paying off debt, and that’s hard, but I can see and touch my dream of being a writer now. And that’s something I’ll never give up again.
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Tell me about your dreams!
What things have you had to give up or overcome to pursue them?
Author Bio:
Jess Witkins claims the title Perseverance Expert. From party crashing as an Oops Baby to paving her way through pop culture, Jess explores it all. Her special skills include: pretending to be an orphan, severe allergic reactions to the sun, having an I-Tunes collection full of 90′s Hits, and quoting movie lines from the Oscar winning film, Spaceballs. You can catch more Jess at her blog, Jess Witkins’s Happiness Project or on Twitter, @jesswitkins.
That’s really scary not to have a backup plan, and I honestly don’t know if I would have been brave enough to do it. Apparently not, since I’ve had the same job for 33 years. I guess my writing will end up being supplemental to my social security after I retire. 🙂 I admire you, brave soul!
Well, I didn’t start out brave. I tried for years to do things the safe route. But things never felt right or the timing was always off. Finally, my mental state was fed up enough to say “now or never” and I was throwing my future into the great wide universe! Something better HAD to come along. And I hope I didn’t sugar coat things too much. It was really hard financially and emotionally on me and my partner.
If I had to do it over again, the only thing I would do differently is leave sooner. Before it got too hard to say goodbye to the people I’d come to care about as family and all the steps Id taken to advance career wise – though of course those are still applicable in my new job.
Good for you, Jess!! I wish I had taken that plunge in my youth, although I’m not unhappy with the way my life turned out, I would have liked to have spent more of it writing.
Yah, I don’t think having a day job is bad, but it needs to be the right job and there needs to balance. Without it, it’s too easy to give up our passions first and only focus on the financial.
Go, Jess! I’m so happy for you for following your heart. It’s the most important thing any of us can ever do, IMO. 🙂
I’m still working on the finance part of the dream, but mentally I feel a LOT better! Thanks for your pep talks and support, August!
Way to go Jess!
I did this same thing after working retail in the 80’s. It is scary! I had a boyfriend at the time who suggested quitting and increasing my hours in botanical illustration. They would only give me 15 hours a week which barely covered rent. While working one day, I picked up a call from a man looking for a full time medical illustrator. The rest is history.
Although I was empty nesting three years ago when I began writing, I took the plunge and had to give up a lot of social activities. That included cutting back on playing tennis 4-5 times a week. I live a hermit’s life in comparison. I’ve never looked back and am writing my second book this month during NaNoWriMo!
Susie that’s awesome! What’s your NaNo project about? I’m doing the same and I’m writing about…retail! LOL
Oh, my God! I was just about to explain, I looked out the window and the snow predicted tomorrow is coming down in big white flakes! Sorry. Had to share. It’s our first snow in Niwot! Yay! Slightly ADD, much?
It’s about stalkers…
Good topic! Some friends of mine are planning an education program in January which is stalking awareness month.
Good to know, thanks! My book is taking place in October, but the third one in the series could touch on that.
My motto is, “It’s never too late.” Plan to indie publish my book in 2015 at age 81. Now blog, Facebook and will soon Tweet. My age group gives me blank stares. My changed lifestyle is that I work, work work. But I’m learning and warding off Alzheimers
Hi Paula! Congrats on publishing your book. That’s phenomenal! I hope to do that someday too. Careful on Twitter, I’ve shown some of my older friends how to use it and now they’re all addicted. LOL.
It hasn’t been just once. I seem to make reinventing myself a bit of a habit. First, leaving my small town. Second, leaving the family of friends and my support system to wander alone in the wilderness, i.e. attend law school. Before that, I’d never even met a lawyer. Can you say culture shock? Next was when I turned down a job selling insurance to start writing. Most recently, Holmes and I cancelled contract on a three-book deal. I can’t talk about why, but we had good reasons. It was like jumping off a cliff. Holmes and I are still here. We’re still okay. We’re still writing.
Love hearing your story, Jess, and looking forward to reading your books. 🙂
I love that you keep reinventing yourself, Piper! I hope to do that too. I’ve made it a mission in life to never stop learning. There is always something new to learn or improve on, fresh ideas to try, people to meet. (There’s that Anne of Green Gables coming out again…) Isn’t that what makes living so great? That each day is an opportunity for something inspiring.
Thanks for sharing some of your life changing moments with Ingrid and I! I’m glad you and Holmes are still here and still writing.
Love that Piper. And totally agree with both of y’all. The exciting part of life for me is learning new things. Which can lead to reinvention of all kinds. That’s the fun part of life. If things stayed the same, if we stayed the same, it’d be boring 🙂
Well, now. There seems to be quite a GAP between what you were doing and what you wanted to do. Glad you took the plunge despite the lack of a safety net – it’s what Tara did when she moved out here, and everything worked out well. If it’s meant to be, it will be – I’m sure of that!
LOL. You’re too punny, Mark. (But it wasn’t the Gap.) You know from your own journey and Tara’s how being in work environment you don’t love is so draining. And it’s difficult to take risks, but I agree with you, some things were meant to be, and I think it was the right time for me to get out. It led to a lot of learning lessons and a better job along the way.
Love love love your post Jess! And so happy you found the balance you were looking for. Balance allows creativity to blossom, in my opinion 🙂 Thanks for stopping by!!
Thank you for having me, Ingrid! I’m happy to share my story if it helps others. Thanks for being one of the peeps that cheered me on during my transition. Hope you’re finding balance too, my friend!
Absolutely Jess! Things couldn’t be better. Look forward to reading your book!
I love your story 🙂 quitting my corporate job was the best feeling of my life and paved the way for me to find time to write, start a business and have more adventures… and it wouldn’t have been the same if I’d had a backup plan to fall onto when I got to the point that I had to leave… And then, like you, I had to get another job – but you’re so right about the difference it makes when you know that it’s temporary and in the big picture you’re following your dreams. I left that one last month and am in complete control of my destiny now – banging away at NaNo, having just published my NaNo novel from last year, and working for myself, and just seeing a better future rosy before me – none of that would be there if I hadn’t taken that plunge – I’m so glad you did too!
Sara, that’s stellar! I’m so happy for you. And extra kudos on saying bon voyage to your “in the meantime” job as well. I wish you all the happiness you can possibly stand! Now, get back to that wordcount! I’ve got to boost mine too!
Thanks for sharing this, Jess. The writing life can be scary, but it’s so worthwhile. I needed the reminder.
Kirsten Weiss
Thanks for being one of my champions along the process, Kirsten! You helped me set targets to achieve along the way and gave me hope things were going to work out.
Good for you, Jess! And yes, you are adorable too! 🙂
Gracias chica! Tu tambien.
Hurray. Long journey for you. You write it well! Best wishes with your happiness project. So many shoulds in this world, starting with a job-any-job with benefits. Boo on that. Looking forward to your next chapter.
Thank you! Yah I learned the longer you stay, the harder it is to make big changes, so I figured it was now or never.
Jess, you’re a brave lady.
Or a desperate one. LOL. It’s still under debate. Thank you for your compliment. I wish more of us had the courage to follow our dreams no matter what.