Kristen Lamb (age 6), Yours Truly (age 3)
Last May, when I decided to move back to my hometown of Fort Worth, a huge priority of mine was reconnecting with old friends. I am a VERY social creature and without my tribe, I am lost. Well not lost, but I would’ve been creeping around Starbucks all day trying to make new friends if I had had none to come home to.
So I started with my trusted few. Close friends I’d known since childhood and some old family friends. But there was one person I just KNEW I wanted to connect with.
A few months prior, a distant acquaintance from high school had friended me on Facebook. And when I say distant I mean we had probably only spoken a handful of times in the halls of our high school. She being a senior and I a freshman, our orbits hardly ever crossed.
So at this point we’d spent, 18 years apart. Living completely separate lives and never entering into each other’s consciousness.
Until Facebook.
And as often happens, by clicking “accept” we gained access to one another’s pages but for the most part, nothing changed. We remained acquaintances.
For several months leading up to my move, I’d see her posts scroll by.
Over and over again, I’d see these posts. And just as The Rule of 7 in advertising states, it started to sink in.
This girl’s a writer. And she’s serious. And she lives in FORT WORTH!
Meanwhile, I was navigating my way back into the writing world. I’d been a writer all my life. I was a trained journalist but during my acting years, writing had been relegated to a hobby.
Now that I was venturing into the uncharted waters of a career transition, writing was one of the things I desired to revisit.
Could this be my next career?
Hmmm.
I’d taken classes in New York and been touch-and-go with my memoir and screenplay and consistency was nill.
So thankfully my subconscious brain made the connection and convinced me to contact Kristen as soon as I got home.
She seemed to have it all together as a professional writer so I was hoping it’d rub off on me via osmosis. Or something.
So we met up. Had a chat. And were instant peeps.
Soul sisters separated at birth.
And she reminded me that we’d met when I was only three. At my parent’s ballet studio. She was one of the big kids that I looked up to in awe.
So we began hanging out on a weekly basis. Me- getting her out of her mommy/writer comfort zone taking her to museums and introducing her to Bikram yoga. She- getting me to focus and start taking my writing to the next level as a professional.
But never could we have imagined the magnitude to which this casual friending on Facebook would lead to.
Now, one year later, we’ve formed a company together which is going to revolutionize the world of the arts. Or at least that’s our goal. 😉
I have found the job I am meant to do. Which is supporting artists and creating art.
I am more proud of this project that anything I’ve ever done to date. The evolution of this business has given me so many Aha moments in that now I know why I was put on this earth.
And I owe this all to Facebook.
So while some of us begrudge it. Complain that it’s a time suck. Or don’t find the point of it all. Just know that if you allow it, this revolutionary communication medium could very well connect you to the destiny you never even knew you wanted.
So how about you? How has social media positively affected your life? I wanna hear your stories now. 🙂
Those are two SERIOUSLY cute kids!!! I have had a blast working with you. Most fun…EVER.
Yay!!
I’m looking forward to hearing of all your successes! I believe in you 100%, Ingrid. And I know you were meant to do something beautiful! 🙂
Thank you Courtney 🙂 Love you girl!! I hope you’re still acting in some way. That is CLEARLY your calling 🙂 Or at least it seemed so at the time. You’re such a beautiful actress 🙂
I’m not a Facebook person, but I love Twitter, which is how I found your blog. Hail Twitter!
LOVE Twitter!!
Great story, Ingrid! So glad you and Kristen reunited and that you found your writing/blogging path.
I’m less of a social creature. Let me write, hang with the hubs and dog and I’m good for weeks. 😉 That said, connecting with writers and readers online has had a profoundly positive impact on my life. I had no idea how much fun, and arguably necessary, it could be. Happiness and support enhance our crafts and careers; I believe that.
Absolutely! Me too! Who knew that social media could have such an impact 🙂
Being “out there” on social media sights helped me move from “I write, but I’m not a *real* writer” to “I’m a writer.” That is a huge step!
Great post – hooray for friendship!
Awesome Nancy! Yes. Social media gives writers accountability, especially if you have a blog. 🙂
Pretty much an introvert myself but am really enjoying the online community of writers and artists that I am meeting. Indeed, it is life-changing. Also, have been subscribing to your blog for awhile. Although not one to comment frequently, I find your posts thoughtful and insightful.
Best to you in your new venture.
Karen
Thank you Karen 🙂 It’s such a great thing for introverts. You get to engage on your own terms.
Wonderful Story, Ingrid!
Facebook connected me to a friend after 10 years of not seeing each other. He found me through my daughter’s page, and found her through her uncle’s page – who he was close friends with back in high school. After a few wall postings and comments, he invited me to Florida for a visit. I thought about going, but wasn’t sure if I should or not. Then he called me (my sneaky daughter had slipped him my number!) Those phone calls happened every day and lasted for hours and hours. It wasn’t long before we knew it was right. We’ve been married for three years now, and I’m happier than I’ve ever been. If it hadn’t been for Facebook, we may never have reconnected and fell in love.
Since then, I’ve met some of the best people through Facebook and Twitter and I’m able to keep up daily with family that live on the other coast. I owe quite a bit of happiness to the social media sites. 😀
*gasp* I am SWOONING!! That’s amazing. So happy for you 🙂 I love it!!
‘Social media’ truly does connect the world. I live in London; tomorrow I’ve got a signing session for my new book in Nottingham. I’ve just started tweeting and this information was re-sent via a lovely lady in Toronto to a local journalist who picked it up and broadcast it! I’m so grateful to them both!!!
WOW! That is amazing!! I just love that we’re a world a way yet are connected in an instant 🙂 Have a wonderful time at your signing session!
You just never know where life might take you when you are open to all the possibilities, follow your heart, and truly just RUN with it! Love it Ingrid. I have no doubt that someday I’ll write a similar post about how blogging and twitter totally changed my world…it already has in many ways so I can only imagine what’s to come. SQUEEE!
Wonderful post!
And you have SUCH a fabulous blog! I’m sure plenty of wonderful things are in store for you 🙂 YAY!
I love that you say just RUN with it. Love it!
I love how social media allows us to stay in touch with friends and family who have moved abroad! Good luck with your company Ingrid.
Thank you Emma 🙂
What a great story! I’ve reconnected to a few people and made some fun new friends, but nothing that exciting!
Such a beautiful post! I had a similar experience finding a treasured friend on FB. We haven’t quite connected like I’d hoped, but it’s wonderful to at last touch base again with my best friend from grade school. I’m tickled to know she’s had a happy life. Social media has indeed changed our world.
Blessings in your career venture, Ingrid!
Isn’t it wonderful!? Thank you so much 🙂
I agree, social media is awesome. It has re-connected me with old friends and allowed me to make many new ones. One of the big surprises is how wonderful writers are as people, even the big, famous ones.. Most are approachable and kind. I’m proud to be among them now, and it’s because of the internet that I know so many personally. (Not saying I know the famous ones personally–LOL–but have found them approachable.)
That’s awesome Jan! Totally agree. It’s made everyone much more approachable.
Like August, I am not a social creature. I love the solitude of writing and staying at home with Hubby and my two shepherds. I venture out every now and then to Writer’s Conferences. Social media has opened up the world to me. I am much more of a writer communicator than a verbal communicator so it’s perfect for me. I now have friends all over the world. I would love to find a writer’s group near me. Then, life would be almost complete. Wonderful post. I really enjoyed it AND Kristen just sold two books. I downloaded them to my kindle just now. Thanks!
Yay! You’ll love her books. LOVE that I get to talk to people all over the world too. The idea still boggles my mind sometimes!
What a wonderful story! Facebook has been fantastic for me both personally and professionally. Living abroad it allows me to keep in touch with family and friends. It’s brought a group of elementary school chums together again after 30+ years and I have even started to manage my writing clients’ social media platforms (turning that time-sucker into a money maker).
Happy Socializing,
Anne 🙂
Nice! Where are you living?? I too want to live abroad some day and love that social media will always be there to connect me to my peeps no matter where I am 🙂
That’s a beautiful story, Ingrid. I, too, have connected with many wonderful people on Facebook. But generally I tend to be more of an introvert and would rather hide in my writer’s cave. I must push myself to get out there and talk. It’s not where I want to be. I think it’s great that everything appears to be working out of you! 🙂
I have something waiting for you today over at my place. 😉
Oh yay!
Thank you Debra 🙂
Love your story! As an introvert (a shy one too) social media has made it much easier for me to find my way into a writing community. There’s so many talented artists and I consider myself lucky to be supported and be able to support! 🙂
Me too Coleen 🙂 And it’s so convenient. No running around town… we get to connect form the comfort of our homes.
I have had a similar experience! Good post, cute pictures! 🙂
Thank you!
I love those pics of you and Kristen as little girls. Soooooo cute. I especially love pics of little girl ballerinas. One of my fav pics is when my niece was two and is doing a ballerina pose in her performing tutu! Kristin’s little boy looks just like her!
How cool that you got reconnected through FB, then finally became good friends. That’s really neat. I love FB because I’ve reconnected with old high school friends, coworkers I’d lost touch with, cousins I’d lost touch with, aunts, uncles, and now I can keep up with my nieces and nephews’ lives, see the latest pics of their families, and keep up with all my writer peeps, too! It’s great. I’m on Twitter, too, but not so comfortable on there.
Me too. Although I’m getting more and more used to Twitter. Yeah… isn’t he just a carbon copy of Kristen? It’s crazy!
Hi Ingrid, what a great story! Here’s another reason why I dig Facebook so much, today is my birthday and I can’t tell you how cool it is to click on your homepage and see so many wonderful thoughts and wishes from friends around the world and across the street. And I’m totally looking forward to reading your books and hearing about your movie deals.
hehe 😀 Thanks Rachel!! And Happy Birthday my friend!!! I’m a big fan of FB birthdays too.
I tend to be social as well, so I love FB. I haven’t mastered it though, and want to set up a page-it’s a work in progress. For right now, my blog is really my love, but I have two WIP that I work on. I know these will tie in together somehow. But it’s a process. Great post! Thank you for sharing, and congratulations on finding in life what some people never find!
Thank you 🙂 I am incredibly grateful. Blogs do wonders for our creative spirit don’t they?!
I’ve been able to stay in contact with friends and love seeing what they like to post on their Walls, as well as make new friends with other writers. Sometimes writers post great information for other writers or post links to blogs. It’s all pretty cool. We’d never be able to do that without this type of internet connectivity.
I enjoyed your post.
Thank you Patricia 🙂 And sorry for the slow response. You went to my spam box for some reason. Thanks for stopping by and glad you also see the major advantages the internet has given us. Especially as artists 🙂
Kristin and Ingrid, my name is Prue Batten and I live in Australia.
I published my first book POD in 2008 and it was picked up by a woman in California who was a miniature book artist. (Patricia Sweet bopressminiaturebooks.com) We communicated and found a true ‘soul’ existed between us: outlook, humour, and creativity. We bonded.
I adore her work. She’s become a sharp and no holds barred beta reader for me as I moved on to publish another three books. I’ve become an avid collector of her work.
We have also become sometime creative partners. Occasionally she uses inspiration from my writing to create a new miniature map or book which her studio sells.
Last year she asked me to write a hist.fict short story based on the actual hist.fict I was writing at the time. I did, she created a stunning leather bound book and it sold like hot cakes! We even sent one to the English actor who was my inspiration for the character and who sent us a charming letter back. Better for me though, was that it gave me a whole new second volume idea which I’m working on now.
That’s what soc.med has done for me. I’ve never met Pat and we’ve spoken once on the phone but the day I published my first book and began to use social media was a day we can call Serendipity with a capital “S” … I consider Pat to be one of my closest and wisest friends and thank the stars for a little thing called Facebook.
PS: I’m grateful to have met many other writers too, and we have a loose fellowship. I think social media is a ‘Gift from the Gods”!
I second all that! I’m a very UN social person, and it still amazes me that I made one of my greatest friends on the internet. (Any friendship that can survive artistic collaboration has to be made of rock). I’ve found images and ideas in Prue’s writing that have filled my own work with fire and joy. Sometimes I fell as if I’m taking advantage of our friendship in order to read early drafts of her novels, but it’s so worth it.
Love it Pat! “Any friendship that can survive artistic collaboration has to be made of rock”… um yeah. It truly tests a friendship for sure. Can’t wait to check out both of your art 🙂
Wow wow wow! That’s incredible!! What a blessing it’s been for you too 🙂 Thank you for the beautiful comment 🙂
Hi Ingrid! *wink wink* I’m so excited to hear about how you and Kristen hooked up. If you know what I mean. I am super excited for the next adventure. *clasping hand over mouth* And I’m especially happy to read your post on your blog today. Can’t wait to chat with you more soon. *strangling self* I WANA hang out with you and Kristen. Bad pun. Bad pun. *hook appears to tear me off stage left*
I am laughing out loud right now. You’re awesome 🙂 Yes. Let’s hang! At Thrillerfest perhaps???
What is Thrillerfest? Does that involve Michael Jackson? I am such a nube.
haha! I know. Me too. That’s what I thought at first. It’s the Writer’s Conference there in June.
In New York? Is it a good one? I’m looking for a good writer’s conference! *drooling*
Thrillerfest is the biggest conference! Check it out!
Neat story, Ingrid! Whether catching up with old friends or meeting new ones, who would’ve guessed that one day we could communicate instantly and nearly anywhere in the world??
Maybe Edison saw an inkling of it but social media really is transforming our lives beyond recognition, from mind blowing discoveries to information overload, a new world order and simple convenience at home. Life will never be the same!
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Cute pic!
And amen to that! It’s been truly revolutionary.
Keep these positive social media posts coming. I have a love-hate relationship with it and on occasion toyed with the idea of closing the laptop and never opening it again. How many times have I sat down to write, but first “just checked” twitter or favorite blogs or websites and two hours later … ? Or discovered a new platform that seems worth exploring but actually takes quite a bit of time to learn how to use, and somehow researching/gardening/writing/reading time dwindles away? If I’m not very strict with myself, social media worms its way in until it takes up a big space and a life of its own.
That aside, sweet story about you and Kristan Lamb. Best wishes on your joint venture and your new projects. It will be fun to follow along on your journey. OK, I do like social media.
hehe 🙂 Yeah. I’ve been reading Seth Godin and he gives lots of advice on how to manage our time with social media. He’s very strict with himself and focuses the majority of his time on creating his art. I’ve been following his advice lately and it’s working! I save social media for my evenings during the week. Sometimes only for 30 minutes a day. Limiting time on the Internet in general is crucial to living a balanced life. 🙂
Glad you found a good friend!! It makes going through life easier when someone’s there to challenge, encourage, and support us.
Absolutely! They’re few and far between.
wow! this is another happy ending story regarding social media, though it makes me sad a little bit because every time I open face book it breaks my heart to see that my posts on friend’s wall (trying to get in touch) have been over-looked or ignored. Sometimes I just feel like shutting myself out of the digital social world. Its so painful! 😦
I hear ya. I was always the one to reach out and stay in touch with people. And when people didn’t reciprocate, I got hurt. But then I learned that actions speak louder than words. And if someone’s not reciprocating, it’s nothing against you. Usually it’s something going on in their world or maybe you’re not meant to be in each other’s lives right now. But this has been a sifting process for me in that the people that do reciprocate and want to be in my life, I know that they are my true friends. I know it’s hard to let go, believe me. But sometimes it’s all we can do. Let go and focus on the ones who do love us 🙂
By the way, I live by this quote: “Don’t make someone else a priority in your life if you’re only an option in theirs.”
Hmm I see! And I used to think it only happened with me. And Indeed its really very hard to let go. I had a friend whom i lost due to lack of contact and we ended up in a huge argument blaming each other for it and eventually I deleted and blocked her from my list…I know I went a bit too far but I did that hoping that it wouldn’t hurt after that but its been about a year and I’m still not over it. I’m considering seeing a psychiatrist for my situation.
Might be a good idea to see a psychologist or any licensed therapist but not a psychiatrist. They mainly prescribe medicine and then refer you to a therapist. I found a really good one in New York and they can do wonders to facilitate healing. Try finding a Gestalt therapist or someone who practices Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. That’s my two cents anyway 🙂 Seeking help is always a good thing I think. Awareness of the situation is the first step and often the hardest. Seems like you’re there so give yourself credit for admitting to it 🙂
thanks alot for your advice and BIG BIG thanks for your golden words “And if someone’s not reciprocating, it’s nothing against you. Usually it’s something going on in their world or maybe you’re not meant to be in each other’s lives right now.” They made my day I thought about it again and again and before dawn I got most of my problems solved, I even apologised to the friend I mentioned here. Though I shall still see the therapist.
In the end I just want to say you are a SUPER awesome person! your one statement brought so much light in my dark world! i loveeee u loadsss! I Shall hang your words somewhere where I can see them every now and then! they did a magic. I’m much relieved now. ❤ ❤
Oh yay!!! That makes me so happy!! Boy I tell ya. I have been to hell and back so I know what it’s like to not know. To feel lost and overwhelmed and hurt. So my whole goal here, and with all of my life’s work, is just to help people. It took me a long time to figure things out in my life. I was depressed and anxious for many years. So my hope is that I can help people like you so that you don’t have to waste as much time as I did. Life is actually very simple. It’s we, humans, who make it complicated.
I was going to suggest that you apologize to your friend but you beat me to it! Good for you 🙂 That shows you’re a lot further along in your healing process than you may have previously thought. Forgiveness has such power. And once we realize we all have faults, it makes it easier to forgive and not take things so personally.
Best wishes on finding a good therapist and if I can be of any assistance in that process, I’d be happy to lend advice from my experience. Lots and lots of hugs 🙂
As I said you are one awesome person! Thanks for everything I wish you all the best and hugggssssssssss back! 🙂
Beautiful story, Ingrid. I can’t wait to hear more about your project with Kristen.
I’ve connected again with some old friends through Facebook and I really love the writer community I’ve met through Kristen’s classes and Twitter. Now to only figure out how to better connect with the potential readers 😛
Thanks Reetta! I’d say focus on building your social media platform and the readers will come 🙂
Hi Ingrid, I would say I hope you’re doing well, but obviously you are!
I’ve found some great people through blogs (mostly), twitter and facebook (lesser), but it can (and does) take a lot of time. I’m sure I don’t use it effectively, but its effective enough for me.
Cheers!
You’re so funny Nigel. Make me laugh every time. I think you’re doing a great job on social media 🙂
Facebook is pretty amazing for re-connecting. A bunch of blood relatives that I hadn’t seen since I was a young child found me on facebook. It is a good way to connect with people that you are related to, but don’t really know. It takes a lot of the scary out of face-to-face meetings and lets us get to know each other slowly. I like that.
I love that it allows us to connect to distant family. Ones you probably wouldn’t otherwise be in touch with. 🙂
I enjoyed your story, Ingrid, and it came just at the time I must admit, I’m tiring of Facebook and social media, and the time it takes away from my writing. But, you’ve re-inspired me by pointing out the magic that could lie right around the corner. Thanks!
Yay! I’m so glad 🙂
So you’re the one who got Kristen into Bikram- awesome! Thanks for the positive post on social media. Needed to hear it this morning.
You’re welcome! Yeah. She happily came along and even did the 60 day challenge! So proud of her.
That is one hell of a beautiful story. I am new to Facebook and I am already seeing changes in my life. Have made new friends and met long lost friends whom I had never imagined would ever see or speak to again.
Thanks to Kristen I read your Blog. So thanks to both you and Kristen!!
Shankar
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Thank you 🙂 Sorry I’m just seeing this! Been working over-time with the business 😉
No worries … Life has a way of getting in the way of our blogging 🙂
Any friend of Kristen’s is destined to be a friend of mine too! I’m looking forward to getting to know u, Ingrid!!! Cheers my friend!
Thank you DeeDee!! Looking forward to it 🙂