As we talked about in What’s Your Dream?, Vivian in Pretty Woman held a belief system that paved the way to prostitution. She settled for less because she believed she had to. It wasn’t until her “star client” [future love] pointed out that she was worth so much more that she began to change her thinking. Like the old adage says:
Thoughts lead to Beliefs
Beliefs lead to Feelings
Feelings lead to Action
Actions create Habits
Habits create your Destiny
So the determining factor in whether or not we reach our dreams all comes down to thought. It’s as simple as that. Thoughts are the foundation of our destiny. You wouldn’t build a house unless you had a solid base. Architects go to great length in studying the lay of the land before they ever attempt to level it and pour concrete.
But I must suffer in order to create great art!
Yes, if you’re an artist there is an element of sacrifice and pain of self-discipline that we must endure. But we still have to have a solid belief system or we could end up like Van Gogh and cut off our own ear.
So throughout your day, pay attention to your thoughts and ask yourself:
Are my thoughts supporting my dreams or tearing them apart?
We must examine our thoughts in order to make the changes we want to see in our lives. Like T. Harv Eker says in Secrets of the Millionaire Mind,
“No thought lives in your head rent-free. Each thought you have will either be an investment or a cost. It will either move you toward happiness and success or away from it. It will either empower you or disempower you. That’s why it is imperative you choose your thoughts and beliefs wisely.”
So what thoughts are taking up mental real estate in your mind? Are they mostly positive or negative? Creative or destructive? Take inventory. Write them down if you must. Because let’s face it, the only way we can improve our lives is to first improve the way we think.